What Does a Real Man Look Like?

Book excerpt: An email I received from a frustrated woman, and the circumstances I faced in my life, inspired me to write this book. The email read: "Hello, Enrique. My name is Brittany {name changed for privacy}. I am looking for real love. I am so hurt and frustrated. My last three relationships have sucked the life out of me. I am just sick, tired, and fed the heck up!!! One guy was married and never told me, the other ran up my credit cards, and the other is on the down-low {Living a gay lifestyle}. I had no idea. What does a real man look like? Please help me. I am a frustrated woman with a major issue. Brittany"What Does A Real MAN Look Like? This question is the million-dollar inquiry. Surprisingly, it is asked by as many men as women. Quite a few ladies are experiencing tremendous pain because they are involved with men, who have no real sense of being a responsible man. To make matters worse, society gives us conflicting messages, regarding this issue. The quest to discovering a real man is dark, troubling, and painful. What Does A Real MAN Look Like? Quite often, this question is answered with physical descriptions, such as tall, dark, handsome, blond hair, or blue eyes. Society is so fixated with the physical appearance of people, that we overlook, or pay very little attention to their emotional, mental, and spiritual state.Genuine beauty is on the inside of an individual, not on the outside. A person can have stunning features, yet, have an unattractive heart. Let us follow the model that is laid out for us by God. "But the Lord said to Samuel, "Do not look at his appearance or at the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart" {1st Samuel 16:7 AMP}.What Does A Real MAN Look Like? This question echoed in my mind. The haunting sounds steered me, in the wrong direction. I was intrigued by drug dealers, womanizers, and men who represented power. Having the example or experience with a positive male is vital when a boy is in search of his identity. I became those who I admired. Living out my daydreams was a complete nightmare. The roller coaster ride was far from fun and joyous.The stomach-turning journey became unbearable, resulting in me becoming depressed and suicidal. I was filled with constant frustration because I was trying to do the right thing, but I kept failing, no matter how hard I worked. It is difficult to know what is right if you were never introduced to the rules for good living. This statement is not an excuse. I am not attempting to hide behind my shortcomings. Simply put, my life was on the job training, and my wife was on the verge of saying those dreadful words, "You are fired." I should have been fired. I was doing a terrible job at being a responsible adult and a good husband. I struggled with my transformation; however, I was determined to change my ways for the better, and become - "A Real MAN."I did not write this book to bash men or to pat myself on the back. I wrote this book to be helpful. For this reason, I exposed it all - the good, the bad, the ugly, my losses, and my gains. Many have tried and failed to define a real man. The information I am going to share with you has changed my life for the better. I am excited for you because it is going to change your life for the better as well.My journey led me to the most significant discovery in the world - the love of God. For the first time in my life, I surrendered to the Father, Who loves me more than I could ever imagine. His love for me is the reason why I made this life-changing conversion. It is the reason why I wrote this book. The love He has for you has drawn you to this book, and it is the reason why you are reading it.I encourage you to allow this book to read you, as you read it. If you do, you are going to unearth priceless treasures that are buried within!