The Psychology of Jesus

Book excerpt: What do Alfred Adler, William Glasser, Albert Ellis, and Jesus have in common? Together they can help you have healthier relationships now. You don't have to be an ordained minister or a trained psychologist to appreciate the simple concepts found in this book: • "Who am I?" and "What's Wrong with Me?" Are Not Helpful Questions. • Better than "Who am I?" and "What's Wrong With Me?" • Are the Questions, "Where am I?" and "Where am I Going?" • Where I go (my behavior) is motivated toward achieving a goal. • Understand the goal, understand the behavior. • People and Events Don't Bother Us. Our Perceptions of Them Do. • We can't always choose our circumstances, • but we can always choose our response to circumstances. Along with these concepts, The Psychology of Jesus offers practical help for living in relationship through a close study of Jesus' encounters with people in the gospels and opportunities to examine your own life as you live it in relationship. REVIEWS: David Jones achieved the pledge he made in the book's introduction to offer from psychology and the gospel accounts of the life of Jesus practical help for living in relationships. In each chapter he uses biblical texts, stories and quotations to challenge the reader's thinking. A section on applying each chapter's content to life is included, along with a personal exercise. He effectively challenges the questions people ask themselves to achieve personal and spiritual growth. Instead of "Who is God?" Jones says we should ask "Where is God?" A better self-directed question than "Who am I?" should be "Where am I going?" In answering these questions, we come to understand God is where the sinners are and we should be where God is. I strongly recommend this book. Ann Bishop I read this book in a group setting over the course of several weeks. We discussed 2 chapters at a time in the group each week. The subtitle of the book is very revealing and very appropriate---"Practical Help for Living in a Relationship". The author takes various text readings from the Bible all involving Jesus obviously and then breaks down the "movements" of Jesus. Jesus is interacting with people in all the chosen text excerpts--and so the challenge is to see how we can apply this interaction into our own modern day relationships. I'm not sure I like the first part of the Title of the book---The Psychology of Jesus--only because it made me feel (before I picked up the book) that Jesus was pre-planning and/or pre-meditating all of his encounters in the Bible in order to prove a point. Perhaps he was. But Psychology is pretty much a modern day term and so the beauty of the book is that the author applies modern day psychology to the actions of Jesus way back when. And it works. The insights about the "movements" of Jesus both away from and towards his encounters along with the exercises at the end of each chapter helped me to understand more clearly how we should all strive to have meaningful relationships.And what happens when a relationship ceases to grow. Mark Oldham David Jones offers solid practical guidance for understanding what motivates our behavior in relationships. He weaves a number of psychological theories with examples from relationships in the life of Jesus to illustrate that Jesus' interpersonal style is to be a loving presence. "The Psychology of Jesus" as described by David is a way of relating that supports our innate desire for growth and change in our lives. It is not a psychology intended to "fix us" or our circumstances but rather to enable us. This type of relationship provides a safe place where we can understand and be understood. It is this climate of "understanding" that is the source or power to effect meaningful change in our lives, as much as, or more than "doing." Throughout his book, the message is clear - IF action is warranted, it is far more likely to have the desired effect when nonjudgemental understanding preceds it. David's writing is insightful and sensitive and reflects a Pastor's heart. It provokes self-examination without any sense of self-recrimination. I have witnessed the use of the book's material in a group discussion setting where it fosters a climate of trust that allows for openness and positive change for the better. I have found it very helpful for understanding my behavior and relationships. Jim Quiggins