The New Masculinity

Book excerpt: From AskMen senior editor and non-binary writer Alex Manley comes The New Masculinity: 13 Old-School Man Rules to Start Breaking, a guide for escaping the shackles of toxic masculinity, unlearning what it means to be a man, and pushing back against the various ways masculinity teaches people to hurt rather than help, and to harm rather than heal. Manley charts a course for a wholly new future of the self that's neither particularly manly nor particularly masculine, but responsive, invested, and caring. Having written and edited for a men's website for seven and a half years, Manley has seen up close how angry, scared, and lonely men are, and how entrenched in a culture war they feel. This book is a guide for unlearning the habits that perpetuate that harm. There are an infinite number of ways to be a person, but to access them fully, men first need to unlearn the restrictions of modern gender roles and the ways society has taught them to shave parts of themselves off until their masculinity comes before their humanity.