Speak Fluent Man

Book excerpt: Everyone wants a good relationship, but very few people have the courage to attain one. Many of us spend years spiraling in and out of failed relationships and marriages only to find ourselves becoming less likely to trust anyone with our hearts in the future. So how do you stop the cycle of failed relationships and maintain a solid, loving relationship with your chosen mate? You start by telling and accepting the truth. Von Decarlo and Patrice O'Neal, a comedian well known for his brutal honesty, shared a long-lasting ten-year relationship before his passing in 2011. She credits him for teaching her how to become a better woman, mother, wife, friend, performer, and business person. By abstaining from marginalizing and rejecting his man truth, Von Decarlo became fluent in "speaking man," thereby gaining the empathy and knowledge of the male species. A book for both men and women, Von Decarlo shares the philosophies taught to her by Patrice O'Neal that enabled her to speak fluent man and have such a unique, successful relationship with him for a decade. From O'Neal, Von lived and learned the true give-and-take of a successful relationship; they were partners in every sense of the word, fully supporting one another's dreams and endeavors. Having lived every woman's dream of a dynamic relationship, today Von Decarlo, also known as "Coach Von", observes and guides women (and men) regarding their relationship foibles and quandaries, from her perspective. This level of her "coaching" is from her personal experience. And lest that title, Speak Fluent Man: The Top Things Women Should Consider Before Blaming The Man, sound anti-woman, Von Decarlo asserts that ladies should be mindful that equality and accountability goes both ways. There is the woman's side, the man's side and hopefully, there is their side, when they come together/work together and agree to build a mutually beneficial union between them. Speak Fluent Man is a great read for men as well, considering that although they already speak their own language, men sometimes do not know how to translate and teach it to their significant others as Patrice did so successfully. Patrice's ability to teach Von how to think above her emotions as a woman into a logical place, is the foundation of what she says enabled her to understand and accept "man truth", and thus realizing the secrets to a successful relationship. Whether you are male, female, heterosexual, bisexual, transsexual, or transgender, Speak Fluent Man can help you to realize the full potential in any type of relationship, by helping you to understand how to have the courage to live in your own truth, and accept the truth of others unconditionally.