Slow Dancing with Fire

Book excerpt: As an emerging young painter in New York City, Brahna Yassky lived her dream, working full-time as an artist and supporting herself with her work, attending art openings and going to clubs, and painting scenery in theaters. In 1982 a flame shot up from her stove and burned 55% of her body. In Slow Dancing with Fire Yassky chronicles the day she was burned, the three months she spent in the burn unit enduring an arduous healing process, and the next full year of physical and occupational therapy. She feared she might never paint again or have an independent life. Would any man ever find her attractive enough to want a relationship? Over time Yassky's resilient spirit guided her to build a new life. She earned credentials as an art therapist and helped others heal from their traumas by engaging with the creative process. She adopted a daily practice of swimming, both as a meditation and a way to loosen scar contractions. The New York City Department of Health commissioned her to create a mural on the outside of a building in the South Bronx and posters for every subway car. She joined the Guerrilla Girls, a women's artist activist collective whose mission was to fight racism and sexism in the art world. She wrote and directed a film about the day she was burned, casting an actress to play herself, thus objectifying the experience and eliminating her personal identity as a burn victim. And finally, she married a man she never would have dated before the fire because his greatest attributes were kindness and nurturance, not coolness and worldly success. Her story encourages the belief that building a resilient spirit and healing our wounds and traumas are not only possible but exhilarating. .