How to Pick a Lover

Book excerpt: While it may be considered taboo, any woman married, single, or otherwise should feel good about her decision to take a lover. How To Pick a Lover is a groundbreaking book written to help women have meaningful and rewarding love affairs. How do you choose a lover? There are no time-honored rules, Greek chorus, or yenta to tell you what qualities to look for or how to avoid potential minefields. Literature is ripe with cautionary tales about bad things that happen to good women who stoop to the "folly" of taking a lover. And traditionally, a woman ́s sexuality has been secondary to that of a man ́s. How To Pick a Lover takes you on a journey of self-discovery, exploring your right to emotional and sexual fulfillment including the option of having a lover. Many of your attitudes and beliefs about courting and being courted will be challenged throughout the pages of this book. In return, you will gain insights into the attributes and behaviors of men positive and negative that you must pay attention to if you are to pick a lover that is right for you.