Would Jesus Date A Woman Like Me?

Book excerpt: Throughout the centuries, frustration, disappointment, and despair on both sides has created a great divide between black women and black men. In the world of relationships, it has become increasingly difficult for black women to make an emotional, spiritual, and psychological connection with black men. For many women, they don't even know how to begin to put on a different "hat" and often find themselves saying, "Why can't I find a good black man?" The truth of the matter is, many black women are sinking and drowning, according to many black men. On the other side of the spectrum there are black men who also have a considerable amount of scar tissue to deal with, not the least of which has been black women who are deceitful, disrespectful, high maintenance, materialistic gold diggers with "get paid" mentalities. The end result is that many black men have become frustrated with black women and have also chosen to cross color lines in unbelievably large numbers. For those black men, having a strong Nubian queen by their side has become nothing more than a pipe dream they used to have. For them, dating outside their race is no longer taboo and no longer creates the innate feeling of betraying black women. Sadly, a lot of black men all over the country have lost love and respect for many black women. A lot of black men feel many black women have no idea how to love them, care for them, or nurture their men. They no longer believe that black women are good homemakers nor can they keep a peaceful home. This is an epidemic that has spread all over America. It is my sincere belief that the thoughts and ideas outlined in my book will help answer numerous questions with which black women continue to struggle regarding their relationships with men--particularly black American men, such as: Why will he bed me but not wed me? Why have many black women lost the love and respect of black men? Why are black men continuing to cross the fence in alarming numbers? Why are black men becoming more hesitant to approach black women? Are black men really intimidated by successful black women? Why are so many black men disappointed, discouraged, and frustrated with many black women? Why do many black men see black women as too difficult and too complicated to deal with? Why are some black men making a vow to never date or marry another black woman ever again? Why are many black women hitting home runs in their careers but striking out in their relationships and marriages? These are some of the questions that are answered in this book. This is why it was so important for me to write this book. I want to inform black women in America what they need to do to help restore the faith of good-quality black men. I want black women to understand that I am writing this book as a wake-up call. If I do my job well, perhaps these words will sufficiently energize the mind, heart, and soul of the amazing creation God called woman to stimulate positive behavioral change in her--or at least provoke a little thought. Now, I know I'm treading on thin ice here, but trust me when I say this book is not about bashing black women in America. It's a book about reality and truth. More often than not, most of us do not like to hear the truth because it forces us to take a good look at ourselves, blemishes and all. The old adage, "The truth hurts," could certainly apply here. However, another old adage is also applicable: "The truth shall set you free." By writing this book, I truly hope to make it easier for black men and woman to come together as one. I want black women to understand that just because many black men have lost faith doesn't mean that we have given up on you. The reality is that sometimes we need to be challenged, and this book will definitely challenge many black women in America to take an introspective look at themselves. Keywords: African American Women, Black Women, Woman, Black Men, Relationship, Dating, Marriage, Sex, Self-Help