Walking Through Anger

Book excerpt: Discover a compassion-based method for defusing conflict and creating better relationships in every area of your life ? How do you respond to anger—in yourself or others? Do you fight fire with fire, or run for cover? Dr. Christian Conte created “Yield Theory” as a way to meet conflict without aggression or submissiveness through the practice of compassionate listening, de-escalation, and genuine communication. With Walking Through Anger, he teaches you this revolutionary model for dealing with anger and inflamed emotions in an increasingly divisive world. Combining Buddhist wisdom, neuroscience, and Dr. Conte’s hands-on experience as one of today’s top anger management therapists, he offers powerful tools for resolving conflict in a way that promotes deeper connection and understanding. Yield Theory is a form of radical self-compassion that lets you circumvent the brain’s fight-or-flight responses in yourself and the person you’re talking to. With an accessible style and practical guidance, Dr. Conte takes you through the seven steps of this potent method: acceptance, authenticity, conscious education, creativity, elimination of shame, mindfulness, and non-attachment. “Although Yield Theory has proven to be an effective tool for therapists and counselors,” says Dr. Conte, “it’s ultimately a way of life. In my experience, anyone from career criminals to parents can learn this approach to transform the way we understand each other—and our true Selves.”