Defy Expectations

Book excerpt: This book is about how to lead with both the heart and the head, but the heart first. This book is about being brave enough to be willing to open your heart as well as your head to lead. Love is the missing ingredient in our corporate culture. We hear a lot of talk about trust, integrity and authenticity in leadership, but without love, none of these are possible. Without loving your teams, your peers, and your mission, you can never truly be a leader that people want to follow. But we never teach people the skill of leading, speaking and working from the heart. We never teach people to be truly open and vulnerable. This is a book about leadership and team building but it is not your usual management book. I never set out to write a traditional book on leadership as I feel that the leadership philosophies and styles that have helped us to where we are now are not going to get us where we need to get to next. We see and treat people as units of labour, rather than the critical part of any business that they are. We have undervalued people and the role that their life experience can bring to work, and we have allowed exclusion and elitism to run our boardrooms and executive suites. What will this book do for you? This book will challenge you to think about the type of leader you want to be, both at work and at home; Force you to define your values and boundaries so that you know what you stand for and ask you to be brave enough to stick to these; Teach you how to love and lead with integrity, along with the trust of those around you in a way that is sustainable; Give you the steps you need to take to become and stay truly vulnerable. Love leadership is not for the faint-hearted, there is nothing soft about love, nothing fluffy. Love is not weak, love is not a doormat, love does not compromise, but love is compassionate, listening and understanding. Love does not sit there with a smile on her face in submission. Love sprints headfirst into action. To me, love is the ability to see the potential in another, no matter where they are in their journey. What more could we ask from our leaders but to see our potential no matter what? I am not special or different; I am just me. I have been hurt, I have failed and messed up numerous times, and I will continue to do so. I have hurt others, both intentionally and accidentally. I am not perfect, and I don't aim to be, but I do, passionately, want to make a difference to people and their lives. I do, however, have over 20 years' experience working, coaching and managing people. I know what works and what doesn't, for the good of each individual, not just the business. I have shown again and again, that by serving and uniting your teams with love, integrity and trust, that you can deliver sustainable business growth. This book aims to help you in doing the same.