Break the Violent Fetters

Book excerpt: Fetter: (noun) "a chain or manacle used to restrain a prisoner." In Buddhist teachings there are said to be ten "fetters" (samyojana) which hold back our progress in this life. In 2009 Joshua laid in a Beijing hostel room, 750 yards away from Tiananmen Square, for 2 days, waiting for his friend to leave China, so that he could kill himself for being gay. The author prayed to God for 15 years to heal the so-called "sinful desires." In that hostel room he began to realize there was never any sin to begin with. This book is told through the author's personal experiences growing up in the Christian American South; before expanding into the broader patriarchal, political, religious, and historical reasons that have caused so much unnecessary confusion & pain for individuals in the LGBTQIA+ and BIPOC communities. Lessons of empowerment are interspersed with poetry and photography by the author. Philosophical reasoning and quantum consciousness are discussed as the author broadens a blueprint of hope for individuals reclaiming their personal freedom. From 2012-2018 the author worked as a respected investigator for Child Protective Services of Texas. Social workers routinely respond to cases of children and teenagers who have self-harmed as they discover their sexual orientations or gender identities are non-heteronormative. Many of these teens do not have supportive parents and are further disempowered by their local communities during these important formative years. In short, kids were wanting to kill themselves for being gay, queer, or questioning their identities. These are many of our stories. That was Joshua's story too. Something had to change. This book was written in hopes that future generations won't live in a world where these stories need to be told anymore. It is the author's intention that each reader will walk away from this story with the same self-confidence, love, and acceptance written within these pages. One day we will be able to write new stories void of systemic or religious oppression. Until then we must each become a change agent for the greater good of all humans. Joshua broke the Violent Fetters and walked into living exactly as we are all meant to live: free, empathetic, joyful, connected to Earth, and with hopeful empowerment for all humankind.