Ways to Talk So Your Children Will Listen and Listen to Them as They Talk

Book excerpt: The relationship between a child and parent is, without a doubt, a very private and personal matter. The idea of giving parents instructions on how to talk with their kids never sits right. However, parents should understand that the more they talk about things, the more comfortable it will be for them. Why not talk with kids in order to make them listen to you, and why not listen to kids to make them talk?The way parents talk to their kids has a huge impact on their ability to learn and listen. Parents need to understand that they are constant examples to their kids on how to behave and act, and talking to them fits perfectly in this matter. Normally, there are 3 different ways parents communicate with their kids, and the first one is the aggressive way. This usually involves yelling and putting their kids down by using attacking words. This can make children to respond in several ways, mainly through acting out, ignoring the parent's order, yelling back, or feeling very fearful. The second communication form is commonly seen in passive form. Parent who fall under this category mutter softly, use very cautious tones and words, and even will just walk over their children when they find them fighting. Unfortunately, when the time comes that they're pushed to their limits, they will suddenly burst and eventually turn into an aggressive communication tone. The last and the third way that parents use to communicate with their children is the assertive way. So far, this is the most perfect way to communicate with kids at all time and levels. Assertive communication is firm, confident, warm, positive, clear, and consistent. Assertive communication with kids is a skill, and it shows to kids that dad and mom know what they are about to say and will make them eventually listen. It's also very important for parents to understand that the importance of making their children listen to them is as equal as listening to them. In this book, parents will learn how to communicate with their kids in the most effective ways in order to make them listen and communicate effectively. Also included in this book are the ways to help children deal with their feelings, engage in cooperation, effective and best alternatives to punishments, how to encourage autonomy in children, how to praise them, and many other things that will make the parent and child relationship even better and closer. A parent should understand what is written in this book for a much better parenting experience.