When Opposites No Longer Attract

Book excerpt: The idea for this book occurred to me one night years ago at a bar on Pittsburgh's South Side. I was with four friends. We met there every week to watch Will & Grace. As we drank our beer, I realized that we were five gay men, all divorced from women, and among us, we had fourteen children. Even though I had met married men on gay sites online, up until that night, I had considered myself something of an anomaly. I was a heterosexual man who didn't realize I was gay until I was married and had children. Before that night at the bar, I had been vaguely aware that my friends and I were meeting a lot of married men--men in straight marriages--in gay bars and other venues in which these supposedly straight men were looking to hook up with other men. That night in the South Side, it hit me that I was not an anomaly. There is something happening in American culture. People are starting to wake up and realize that they are not who they thought they were. They're waking up and finding themselves married to someone that biologically no longer rings their bells. And this phenomenon is much more common than people think.