Good With Me

Book excerpt: Learn to separate your self-esteem from outside influences—like social media—with advice from a nationally recognized addictions expert. Are you unhappy and don’t know why or how to fix it? Do you compare yourself to others and end up feeling bad about yourself? Do you worry about what others think about you? Is being successful and having it all not enough? Have you given up on yourself? If your answer is yes to any of the above, you may have other-dependent esteem. According to licensed counselor and self-esteem expert Patricia Noll, other-dependent esteem means that our happiness and self-worth depend upon something outside of ourselves, such as: What we have, do, and know What others think about us Looking good Being right Achievements and accomplishments Being the best And more. The problem is that nothing outside of ourselves can truly make us happy—at least not for long. Other-dependent esteem creates a cycle of stress, addictive behavior, dependency, and ultimately deep unhappiness. In Good With Me, Noll presents the same revolutionary approach that has helped her clients at Focus One, an outpatient substance abuse program, shift from other-dependent esteem to true, self-dependent esteem—and experience freedom from crippling effects of other-dependency. This simple, practical, step-by-step solution will also help you finally achieve lasting happiness from the inside out, regardless of circumstances. “If you have ever reached a goal and yet not felt satisfied, reading this book will show you why that is and how you can change that. Permanently.” —Laura Atchison, bestselling author of What Would a Wise Woman Do?